The Paradox of Polyamory and Power Exchange

Consensual non-monogamy and D/s relationships are two types of relating that can seem in direct contradiction to one another. Where polyamory and other forms of CNM tend to value egalitarianism, autonomy and personal agency, D/s relationships often rely on explicit hierarchy, control and surrender to another’s authority.

Combining them can feel like trying to square a circle. But within this seeming contradiction lies a multitude of possibilities for new ways of playing with passion and power.

In this interactive workshop, you’ll learn three frameworks to help you make sense of your negotiated non-monogamous and D/s relationships, hear perspectives to help you clarify your own relationship priorities, and discover resources to guide you in your own explorations.

We’ll explore questions such as: When polyamory and power exchange collide, what takes precedence and how do you decide? Where are the boundaries between one person’s authority and another person’s autonomy? What if you and your partner(s) want both? Is it possible to fully surrender and have multiple relationships? And much more.

You’ll leave with a deeper understanding of these relationship styles and how they can play together, as well as next steps for your own personal journey.