People Before Kink

We are all at different points on our journey. Newcomers, veterans, couples, spiritual seekers, swingers and professional Dom/Dommes. This program was created to meet you where you are. Our interactions with others give our lives meaning. The sense of well-being we get from truly connecting with another is proof of that. But while we yearn for deeper connections, we don’t know how to create them. This is most painfully evident in kink settings, where we are often our most vulnerable, and yet our interactions end up being superficial and transactional.

PBK is a 5-hour online intensive, designed to:

• Allow you to find and express your true self, and create space for others to do the same. 
• Hone skills that will bring all your connections to their full potential. 
• Put you on the path that will add meaning and direction to your kink journey, as well as all areas of your life.
• Drawing upon a decade of sex work and professional domination experience, this is a framework for making and maintaining deep, meaningful connections. It works with people you are just meeting as well as the relationships you already have. 

Foundation for Success

Our process revolves around 5 key points. We use the acronym ICAVS to make it easy to remember:

Introspection - This is an opportunity to dive deeper into yourself. This process cuts right into the middle of who you are and gives you knowledge and perspective of your life’s journey up until this point. Introspection at this level empowers you, through a unique process of self-awareness.

Container - Containers create safe space to be with yourself and others. In this way, you experience seeing and being seen, hearing and being heard. We will show you how to do this. It will serve you now and for your whole life’s journey.

Actualization - As you dive deeper into who you really are, you will find you have permission to remove all the obstacles that hold you back. This process gives you the space to discover and become your true, authentic self. 

Vulnerability - Deeply meaningful connections require vulnerability. The magic of this intensive comes from the participants themselves. When people feel safe, they can be who they are and share themselves with another in a new way. We provide you the opportunity to experience this level of vulnerability. 

Safety - We provide you a safe and educational environment in which to have this immersive experience. In this judgment-free space, you will see how to create safety for yourself and others moving forward.

Process 

This program has everything you need to get you to the root of your identity, as you are today. Here is what you can expect:

Before the workshop, you will receive a package that walks you through a path of Introspection. It helps you find specific and valuable information about yourself. It also provides you with words to articulate your thoughts and feelings, something we are generally not taught. Self-knowledge is the foundation of our program.

When the intensive begins, there will be a meet and greet to help acquaint you with the other participants. In stages, you will learn how to create safe containers for yourself and others. This work, combined with the introspective work, puts you on the path of self-actualization. 

You will be partnered with someone in progressive breakout room sessions and given specific instructions that will allow you to apply what you are learning in real time. You will experience what it is to validate others and be validated by them. 

All of this happens in an environment of vulnerability, safety and trust. The entire process is free of judgment and agenda. This allows you to leave the workshop with valuable skills you will have practiced, freeing you to integrate them in all areas of your life.

Facilitator Bios

Joshua - Joshua, known as Master Joshua in the BDSM/Leather community, is a counselor, educator, event promoter and host, and Professional Dominant. In one-on-one sessions, Joshua guides his clients towards self-acceptance, empowering them to gain control of and become active participants in their own lives. Drawing upon personal, unique, and hard-earned transformative experiences, he has developed a personalized method of NTSB (Non Traditional Sexual Behavior) counseling, which is specifically geared owards catalyzing self-actualization. Over the past 12+ years, this system has helped hundreds rid themselves of shame, see and embrace their sexual identity, and live richer, better more materialized lives. 

Cat - Cat has been in the kink community for 25+ years, developing a deep understanding of what it means to be on a kink journey. Cat is a counselor, educator, event promoter and organizer, and minister-in- training. In addition to education within the BDSM community, she offers one-on-one counseling to help people gain perspective and clarity around a variety of life stressors. Her work is from the perspective of spirituality, facilitating growth and development. greater self-acceptance, problem-solving and healing. Her methods allow people to get "unstuck" and reprioritize life goals. She also has 20+ years of grief, trauma and recovery counseling experience, along with a profound understanding of 12 step principles and other techniques for creating positive change. Cat has assisted clients with navigating pitfalls associated with addiction and codependency, coming to terms with loss, identifying and surpassing obstacles and improving relationship dynamics, with the understanding that our relationship with Spirit/Divine/Universe is what ultimately heals all things.