Negotiating and Communicating for Emotional S/M with vahavta

Class Description

Humiliation, degradation, objectification, and other emotion-based play can, for some people, provide some of the most intense or playful kink experiences. But as a more abstract kink, it can be challenging to negotiate effectively. Add the complicated nature of safewording when emotions have already been affected, and you have a recipe for some potentially major pitfalls.

In this class, join experienced emotional masochist vahavta to explore your interest in emotional play, discuss some of the possibilities for its directions (both good and bad!), and learn how to communicate with partners to minimize harm and maximize the experience you want.

About vahavta

vahavta began her kink journey about a decade ago and has been grateful to get to teach, play, and learn in communities in North Carolina, Chicago, St. Louis, and Israel along the way. Today, she serves her husband in a 24/7 CNC-based Total Power Exchange with heavy elements of emotional play and service and is often found sporting large bruises, writing, or enjoying a good beer.

vahavta is disabled, Jewish, and femme, and believes in approaching kink with a firm understanding of intersectional context. As an educator, she aims to give honest and risk-aware information that applies to the realities of human behavior, focusing largely on the "how" and asking people to consider their personal capabilities, interests, and readiness. Passionate about community collaboration, vahavta is proud to run the Risk Evaluation Database (RED) and contribute regularly to kink blogs and her own Fetlife writing index. In all aspects of her life, she strives to be a work in progress.